Don't get me wrong, I love my mother and my aunt but I'm so damn tired. Auntie is getting weaker and sleeps more often, my mom is getting more and more stressed because she's trying to take care of not only my aunt but my brother as well. She also knows that the two that are doing everything are the two that have just as many physical limitations.
The weekend break was great, going to Reno and relaxing, not thinking about all this, but it was very short and now I'm back to square one. I've been arguing to a point of preaching about how important my aunt's diet is. My mom and my sisters fought me, telling me that "a little bit" and "she can have it today", no realizing that the two of those add up to one big mess. When we met with the Radiation Oncologist I mentioned a problem my aunt is having. The doctors asks if she's following the diet, I saw both my mother and my aunt suddenly turn deaf. I explained how I've been trying get them to understand how she needs to eat but it's a fight. The doctors looked at both my mom and aunt, points and me and says, "for now, she's in charge, you need to follow what she says you can and can't eat", she proceeded to tell them that the thing she could have little bits of are no longer allowed. I had to explain that this was temporary until the next week when the doctor checks in. Hey, I know she meant longer than a week but at least by saying until the next check they understood.
Auntie's walker is another story. I finally got a call from the medical supply place today, looking for her insurance information, by the time I returned the call the girl had already called the doctor's office and got what she needed. Umm, shouldn't she have done that in the first place? Then she asks if I'd like to be transfered to delivery so I can set up a time and date, and I'm like "sure that'd be great, thanks". Yeah, that wasn't happening, the guy already sounded exasperated because it's the afternoon and he may have to go out again, "I can't do anything until I get the order and it'll be delivered to the place on her records". I ask, can't you take the change of deliver address down so at least if he does go out and have to make two trips? The reply, "You have to call on Monday, and maybe you'll catch him before he leaves and if not you'll have to make arrangements". I'm thinking, isn't that what I'm trying to do now? Just because your lazy butt doesn't want to grab a pen and paper.
My Tuesday, Thursday shifts ended up being, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday this week. Today was a doozy at that, we went to Radiation, then took my aunt to get her mail. She ended up wanting to got get a pair of slippers in the apartment and then couldn't find them. We spent over a half hour searching a tiny apartment for a pair of slippers that I easily could have gone out and bought a replacement pair but her mind was set on that specific pair. Once we got back to mom's she fixed auntie lunch and mom and I headed out. Mom wanted to go to the cemetery and then I took her to lunch. When we got back to the house we had to hit my sister's list of appointments to make for mom, ears, eyes, and dermatological. I was hitting a stone wall trying to find appointments for her, ears, July 11th, eyes, August 14, and dermatology sometime in September. All this and I ended up getting her a new primary care, her old one was only taking morning appointments and by phone at that. Phone appointments don't work well when the patient doesn't hear well. It pained mom to lose that doctor but the new one seems rather on the ball, she actually got her in today at 4:30 p.m. and pretty much told mom she needs to lower her stress level. Mom thought she had a cold, nope, no fever, no congestion, no cough, just stress and a change in her blood pressure medication.
I've been home for less than an hour now and the only things keeping me awake are 1. I'm hungry and 2. I've actually got a day to myself tomorrow. And I'm totally upset because I've lost the face plate to my stereo in the car so no tunes. DANG IT!
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